Ok, so I’ve read both sides of this story. The bigger the recession, the less sex that’s happening. And, recessions have no impact on the amount of sex that’s happening. I don’t know which is true. And, quite frankly I’m not sure anyone ever tells the truth about their sex life (except those people who write books detailing their exploits over a period of say 101 days…). But, it is interesting to think about the impact that outside social forces have on our unions of two. I know for myself that the more stressed I get about my job or lack of job as is the current state of affairs, the less interested I am in any kind of pleasures of the flesh.
And, yet last night…I was a bundle of tension. Daughter number one was on the third day of the flu, my hours as a contractor have dwindled from 40 per week to a measly 5, and in the past week I have mysteriously developed tennis elbow. I was bathing in my own glow of self-pity with a dash of depression and physical pain. But what did that magnificent husband of mine do? He gave me a long, deep-tissue massage. It was so intense that I felt I had become one with the bed. My worries faded as he worked my muscles like a piece of dough. The relaxation and bliss I felt had not be experienced for several weeks. And, of course, there was a happy ending for all…
Here’s an article that was posted last week about sex and the recession from Consumer Reports:
At least the economic crisis hasn’t affected one leading indicator: Our sex lives. That’s one finding from a nationally representative sample of 1,000 adults ages 18 to 75 conducted by the Consumer Reports National Research Center in January.
Seventy-nine percent of the sexually active respondents said that the financial downturn hadn’t had the same effect on how often they had sex. And while they said they planned to spend less this year on Valentine’s Day, nearly half thought President Obama should take time out during the holiday to show the first lady a little love.
But if the economy hasn’t hurt our sex lives overall, our health could be putting a crimp in it. For example, 81 percent of the respondents said they avoided or delayed sex with their partner in the past year. The two most common reasons given were “too tired” (53 percent) and “too sick” (49 percent). For advice on how to deal with insomnia and the other health problems that can sap your mojo, see 6 top reasons for not having sex as well as our table, Drugs and diseases that can hurt your sex life.
Perhaps even harder to overcome is the apparent disconnect between men and women when it comes to sex. For example, nearly 60 percent of the men in our survey said they thought about sex at least once a day, compared with only 19 percent of the women. Men are also far more likely than women to say that sex is highly important to them (64 percent vs. 47 percent). Interestingly, though, an equal percentage of men and women—about two-thirds—said they were highly satisfied with their sex lives.
Those findings jibe with the results of recent medical research that suggests that while roughly the same percentage of men and women report “sexual dysfunction,” far fewer women are bothered or distressed by the problem. Yet the pharmaceutical industry seems to see any decline in sexual interest or performance as a medical problem that requires treatment, preferably with drugs. For example, some doctors are prescribing Viagra for women and supplemental testosterone for both men and women. For advice on when medical therapies are called for and when they’re not, see Healthy sex: His and hers.